1 John 2:9-11—Whoever says, “I am in the light,” while
hating a brother or sister, is still in the darkness. Whoever loves a brother
or sister lives in the light, and in such a person there is no cause for
stumbling. But whoever hates another believer is in the darkness, walks in the
darkness, and does not know the way to go, because the darkness has brought on
blindness.
Jesus Christ is the light of Christians, and as Christians
we profess that we walk not only with the Light, but in the Light. Being a Christian calls for us to transcend
our human darkness and tendency to judge, hate, and hurt others—we must
overcome our vulnerability to emotions like rage and vengeance. This of course is much easier said than
done. There are times when our human
side feels justified in hating someone else – sometimes that hate is aimed at
someone who has personally hurt us.
Other times it is aimed at someone committing an injustice against
someone else. The feelings of anger and
hate are a natural to humans—but Scripture tells us that hate prevents us from
being in the light. Here are some
concrete steps for overcoming hate, anger, and the desire for vengeance when
those emotions rear their ugly heads in your life. 1.
Speak love, not hate. Whether you
say it to yourself in a quiet space or to the person directly, it is important
to speak uplifting words instead of poisonous and hateful words. Mantras like “open my eyes to see the good in
others” or “my heart is open to love my opponent” will create space in your
Spirit to begin to feel love toward others.
It will take time, but sometimes we must speak a new spiritual state
into being. 2. Do love, not hate. Continue to behave with kindness and
generosity toward others, even if you don’t feel like they deserve it. I’m not saying to let someone take advantage
of you. Rather, consider how your
actions can either perpetuate negative emotions and behaviors or transform them
into something better. If you have the
choice to be kind, always choose kindness.
3. Imagine yourself in the other
person’s shoes. It might seem like trite
advice, but it really does help to try to understand the other person’s
perspective. So often in my career and
personal life, I have found myself jumping to conclusions about why other
people are acting a certain way. Once
I’ve taken some time to listen to the other person and observe their
circumstances, I’ve come to understand that most of the time their behaviors
really have nothing to do with me.
Usually, their attitudes are affected by stressors in their life, and
acts of kindness from me can help to change their attitudes, alleviate their
stress, and make them feel better about themselves. 4. Pray. Some people might be tempted to
think that prayer is over-rated. I
personally know some people that treat prayer like a slot-machine where they
put in a prayer for what they want and expect God to pay out dividends of
happiness. That’s not the type of prayer that is likely to heal a broken and
hurting heart, though. When we feel
emotions like hate, anger, and the desire for vengeance, we can pray to God and
ask Him to help us channel these emotions into acts of love and kindness. We can ask God for wisdom, knowledge, and
understanding so that we can act lovingly toward others.
Today as you pray and meditate on His Word, take an honest
inward look at your heart and ask yourself if you are harboring any anger or
resentment toward anyone or anything. Place those feelings before God and
confess your desire to convert those feelings into love. Pray that God would continually keep you in
the light so that His love might rain down on all those around you. Rejoice in
the love God has shown you and recommit to living in His Light every moment of
every day.